Passion Is Just a Myth

“Passion has little to do with euphoria and everything to do with patience. It is not about feeling good. It is about endurance. Like patience, passion comes from the same Latin root: pati. It does not mean to flow with exuberance. It means to suffer.” ― Mark Z. Danielewski

Odds are that during your lonely nights, when you felt heartbroken and tired and defeated, you created this romantic myth of a “soulmate.” Someone you’d be in love forever and ever and ever. Your happily ever after. It seems like an innocent thing. Harmless. But the truth is that no one is ever going to make you feel like your heart is constantly skipping beats. No one is going to take your breath away each and every morning you see their face.

It’s the truth.

Lasting relationships have less to do with being in love, and more to do with respect, with admiration, with being able to overcome obstacles, to accept someone else’s faults, flaws, and shortcomings. Lasting relationships are all about compromises, about being able to defy the urge to jump ship when things get tough, to talk it out, to be honest with yourself and the other person… Continue reading

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Irreversible

The writers know it all too well. How a blank page is the ultimate definition of them being a failure.
In writing, in life, in love, it is all the same: you miss 100% of the chances you don’t take.

That being said, not taking chances, not assuming risks, not trying to succeed for fear of failure, ends up being the biggest disappointment, the heartbreaking regret of “could have.”

So?

Just do it.

Don’t think yourself out of an idea. Go for it. If you fail, it’s going to hurt, indeed, but after a while you’ll realize that you actually learned something out of it. But not trying at all, that’s going to break your heart every single time you remember your failure to act.

Beliefs and Dreams

believe“To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.”Anatole France

I often say that art is a matter of faith. That you have to believe in what you’re doing. You have to believe in the world you’re creating, in yourself, in your capabilities. Leave no room for doubt, petty frustrations, or insecurities.

I also say that it’s all just a matter of hard work. But sometimes you hit a wall. You’ve run out of things to say. You feel void of motivation, inspiration, or courage. What once brought you great pleasure, it’s now a tedious task.

Yes. We need to act upon our dreams, but we must never forget to dream. To hope. To aspire. To believe. Continue reading

alter ego

alter ego: 

a second self or different version of oneself, such as
a :a trusted friend
b :the opposite side of a personality –  Clark Kent and his alter ego Superman
c: a fictional character that is the author’s alter ego

Literature is the lie that tells the truth. Or so they say. That’s why sometimes writers choose to use alter egos. Ernest Hemingway wrote the so-called Nick Adams stories, John Updike had Rabbit Angstrom and Henry Bech, Bukowski had Henry Chinaski.

But why? Continue reading

TMM: But it’s not even midnight

tmmThe muse does not wait for you to get ready. The muse does not appear when you want it to appear.

This is what we like to say to ourselves whenever we don’t feel like writing. When we’re too hungry, too tired, too cold to write. When we’ve got other things to think about. When the world seems out-of-balance in such a way that you writing would simply cause the Universe to implode. Continue reading